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Have you ever done stretching exercises?
If so, then you know the wonder of going with the stretch. When you stretch, let’s say, you bend your spine down while keeping your knees straight till your hand reach the floor. Put the palms down.
This stretch should be experienced through the spine as well as the hamstrings. If it is easy for you, walk your hands further on to increase the stretch, till you can barely handle it.
Here comes the key point.
When you are stretching you are challenging the muscles for elasticity. If you get tense at that moment, the stretch is painful or, uncomfortable, to say at least. But… when you relax with the stretch and into the stretch, this very discomfort becomes nearly pleasurable. It is still discomfort, mind you, but your body is both allowing it and accepting it. It sees the purpose of such a conscious extension.
The ease follows, which is not the ease from discomfort, but a meta-feeling of a higher level acceptance and understanding. In the stretch, in the very pull of the muscles, the body sees a promise of something greater. The promise of graceful movements. It is a joy in disguise.
The extension gives hope for supple joints and the flexibility. The body loves it deeply.
When a problem or a challenge occurs in your life, you may choose to attack it head on. You may want a solution and you may want it fast. This may work out in some cases, but it does not, when the solution involves your transformation.
If the solution cannot be worked out straight away or soon, what do you do?
You gather more knowledge.
You collect more understanding.
You test various approaches and try new ones.
You research and investigate.
You seek help from others.
You move beyond the obvious, the standard and the norm.
Yet, the progress is negligible. When you manage to solve an aspect of your problem, a new angle arises to complicate the whole picture even more.
You feel like paddling a canoe in a raging river.
It is wild and unpredictable.
The harder your try, the more difficult it gets.
Imagine now, for a change, that your problem is not a wild river, but a small pond that you have already investigated pretty well. The solution you want is a bright coin lying at the bottom.
When you attempt to paddle like crazy, get better equipment (say, knowledge) or techniques (say, understanding) or ask friends to paddle with you, you only stir up the mud and create the foam.
Perhaps … in all your eagerness of paddling and the splashes you created, you have indeed mistaken a pond for a river. All these efforts, well-intended of course, and optimized for effectiveness, all the anxiety, and the action are in vain.
They all obscure the surface of the pond. The waters are murky. There is nothing to be seen.
How can you look for the coin?
Stop your paddling and stand still. Stay still long enough for the waters to get calm and clear.
Relax into the stretch.
Just allow things to be.
Live as if you have everything you need.
Live as if your problems have never existed.
Maybe it will take one day, a week or a year.
Let your coin reveal itself.
Have you ever had a child or a family member with an overwhelming health problem?
Have you ever encountered a sudden limitation, a serious lack of money or a loss?
Have you ever had so much on your plate you could barely make from day to day?
What do you do then?
Do you get angry and rebel?
Do you keep hacking the problem?
Do you educate yourself to come out with new solutions?
Relax into your challenge.
Open your chest.
Accept what is and live as if the solution has been found.
This simple step takes the pressure of you to come out with action or plans to hack it.
Sometimes loving attention is all that is needed. To yourself, your family member or a friend.
In the state of relaxation, your parasympathetic nervous system is at work. This is your optimal state.
Your intuition is enhanced.
Love comes freely.
You live in the zone.
Cherish your intentions.
Calm your emotions.
The coin is there to be found.